Hey everyone. I recently have realized the road I'm heading towards. I feel like I'm becoming a really bad, toxic, and rude person online. I have said some mean things in the discord server, some intentional, some not. I have accidentally said something extremely hurtful because I thought it was a shorter version of something bad. Turns out I accidentally insulted the LGBTQ+ community. And I did not mean that at all. I accept everyone. No matter what. I don't know if I can fix what I've broken. I was planning to apply for staff over the summer but I doubt I'll get accepted now. Please. If I have insulted anyone. I'm sorry. I want to try and work on my toxic nature and become humble. I get too worked up about everything and lash out too much. And I say nasty things, without even realizing what I'm saying and how it may affect others. I need to work on my attitude a lot. I'm sorry everyone.
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Hey Laney, I don't think your as rude/mean as you think you are.
Initially, when we first talked, we were pretty mean to each other, and I thought you were a mean, cold-hearted person. And I was right (jk lol I just needed to put that). Anyway, after a while, I realized a lot of things about you and how your not as mean as you mean to be.
I hope you have fun improving and enjoy seeing yourself as a better person, and while I don't have much advice to offer, I wish you luck in whatever you choose to do.
Best Wishes,
Aries <3
Initially, when we first talked, we were pretty mean to each other, and I thought you were a mean, cold-hearted person. And I was right (jk lol I just needed to put that). Anyway, after a while, I realized a lot of things about you and how your not as mean as you mean to be.
I hope you have fun improving and enjoy seeing yourself as a better person, and while I don't have much advice to offer, I wish you luck in whatever you choose to do.
Best Wishes,
Aries <3
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Also know, that while I may not be the greatest influence, I'm here to support you Laney. If you ever feel yourself getting angry or upset you can always come to me and I'll listen. I can't promise that I'll always respond, but I'll do my best to help you <3
Just don't beat yourself up when you fall down, and don't listen to the negative things people say about you. I think you're an amazing friend. Do you remember when I was on the Mana discord and people would intentionally poke at me about the whole furry thing? You stood up for me, and told them to stop picking on me, and even if they didn't stop it makes me feel happy that you at least tried because not a lot of people would do that. Yeah, it's been my understanding you sometimes flew off the hook but if I hated you for that, then I would be the biggest hypocrite. Also, most "bad people" wouldn't be able to accept that they are just bad people. A good person is someone who sometimes messes up but realizes where they've gone wrong and take steps to improve themselves. See, it's important that you have a plan for when you are upset/frustrated and want to lash out. What I been trying to do is take a step back and message one of my friends. Now, it's a lot of trial and error. Not all coping strategies will work for everyone so don't feel disappointed if it doesn't work out, you may just need to find another strategy that works for you! I know some people when they are angry or upset they will channel those emotions into something they like to do- like a hobby. I know you do a lot of drawing, so why not try putting your emotions into that? I do that sometimes, and I say that it's helpful especially when you want to escape a sticky situation.
I know that sometimes it can be frustrating- but if there are people being rude to you or anyone else and it's upsetting you, report it to the staff. Do NOT ENGAGE because most likely when the staff intervene it'll be harder for you to stop- and if anything the staff will punish you and not the people who started the argument in the first place. Trust me, I speak from experience.
Also, like kxie mentioned, talking to the staff can be great when you're not sure about something. Like when I want to know if a specific situation/scenario is a rule break then I'll just message a mod and they'll tell me if it's rule-breaking or not. Staff are probably gonna be your best resource since they are less likely to give you false information since they would risk a demotion if they were constantly giving false information out. Go on, I'm sure they don't bite... at least most of them won't :eyes:
But overall, the best thing you can do is to just block people who are being negative. The staff can only do so much, you see... mutes are only somewhat effective- if it's a troll they'll just end up getting a temp mute but when it expires they'll just go back to trolling people. And you already know if it's bothering you now, it'll bother you a week later when they start going at you in chat.
I think that's everything, if I think of anything else I'll add it down below or I'll just message you on discord, best of luck Laney and remember that I'm always here for you! <3
Just don't beat yourself up when you fall down, and don't listen to the negative things people say about you. I think you're an amazing friend. Do you remember when I was on the Mana discord and people would intentionally poke at me about the whole furry thing? You stood up for me, and told them to stop picking on me, and even if they didn't stop it makes me feel happy that you at least tried because not a lot of people would do that. Yeah, it's been my understanding you sometimes flew off the hook but if I hated you for that, then I would be the biggest hypocrite. Also, most "bad people" wouldn't be able to accept that they are just bad people. A good person is someone who sometimes messes up but realizes where they've gone wrong and take steps to improve themselves. See, it's important that you have a plan for when you are upset/frustrated and want to lash out. What I been trying to do is take a step back and message one of my friends. Now, it's a lot of trial and error. Not all coping strategies will work for everyone so don't feel disappointed if it doesn't work out, you may just need to find another strategy that works for you! I know some people when they are angry or upset they will channel those emotions into something they like to do- like a hobby. I know you do a lot of drawing, so why not try putting your emotions into that? I do that sometimes, and I say that it's helpful especially when you want to escape a sticky situation.
I know that sometimes it can be frustrating- but if there are people being rude to you or anyone else and it's upsetting you, report it to the staff. Do NOT ENGAGE because most likely when the staff intervene it'll be harder for you to stop- and if anything the staff will punish you and not the people who started the argument in the first place. Trust me, I speak from experience.
Also, like kxie mentioned, talking to the staff can be great when you're not sure about something. Like when I want to know if a specific situation/scenario is a rule break then I'll just message a mod and they'll tell me if it's rule-breaking or not. Staff are probably gonna be your best resource since they are less likely to give you false information since they would risk a demotion if they were constantly giving false information out. Go on, I'm sure they don't bite... at least most of them won't :eyes:
But overall, the best thing you can do is to just block people who are being negative. The staff can only do so much, you see... mutes are only somewhat effective- if it's a troll they'll just end up getting a temp mute but when it expires they'll just go back to trolling people. And you already know if it's bothering you now, it'll bother you a week later when they start going at you in chat.
I think that's everything, if I think of anything else I'll add it down below or I'll just message you on discord, best of luck Laney and remember that I'm always here for you! <3